The 3 Levels of Fear
Take some time to stop and think about fear for a moment...
If someone says they are afraid of heights, is it really height that they’re afraid of? Or is it that they’re afraid of falling and dying?
And why would they be afraid of dying? Perhaps they are afraid to leave their loved ones behind or there is still a lot they wish to do that they’re afraid they’ll miss out on.
So you see, even a simple fear like the fear of heights isn’t so simple when you start to dig deeper into the different levels of fear itself.
In fact there are 3 main levels of fear, which are briefly outlined below.
This is the most superficial level your fears, of what it only seems that you’re afraid of on the surface. These consist of things that you’re afraid will happen, and things that you’re afraid to do.
Examples of those that happen:
- Being alone
- Loss of money
- Losing a loved one
Examples of those that require action
- Going back to school
- Making decisions
- Changing/choosing a career
- Making friends
- Ending or starting a relationship
- Losing weight
- Being interviewed
- Public speaking
- Making a mistake
This deeper level of fear is actually not situational but rather deals with your ego and your inner state of mind.
This has to do with how you view yourself and your ability to handle what comes at you, which can significantly impact various areas of your life and could cause you to close out the world around you.
Some examples are:
- Being vulnerable
- Being cheated
This is our biggest fear of all which is keeping you stuck where you are.
“I CAN'T HANDLE IT”
At the bottom of every one of your fears is simply the fear that you can't handle whatever life may bring to you. I mean just think about it, if you KNEW that you could handle anything that happens, what would you even be afraid of? Nothing!
Trust that you are able to handle anything, because while you cannot control what happens outside yourself, you always control how you react to your circumstances the way you react to circumstances is completely up to you.
It’s also important to consider the source of our fears because you’ll find that some are more legitimate than others. Some fears have been conditioned into us, like the fear of dying and the fear of illness.
However, others are passed down by our parents and society, like the fear of rejection or public speaking.
This is why it’s important that while it is good to learn lessons from others, all of us individually must test our own boundaries.
Also, don’t over-think and get analysis paralysis. It’s impossible to figure out everything for certain, so you can just accept right now that the fear will never go away as long as you are growing.
If you’re not regularly feeling fear then it probably means that you’re not trying anything new!
So what’s the cure to your fears?
The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it!
Sorry, but there’s really no easy way out of it, the only way this works is by doing the action.
You need to be constantly challenging yourself to do what you fear until you beat that fear into submission and fear it no longer.
Of course, it doesn’t stop there. As soon as you master that fear it’s time to push yourself even further by tackling a larger fear!
This is what needs to happen if you want to be continually growing and getting better in all areas of life.
The bottom line is, it’s not really about being “fearless” because if you're truly living life to the fullest then you will regularly feel fear! Instead, the correct attitude towards your fears is to accept them all as opportunities to learn and to trust that you have the ability to handle whatever comes your way.