Character vs Personality
If you pay close attention to the different personal development content out there, you’ll note that they can be separated into 2 main categories. Some focus on your character, while others focus on your personality, and knowing the difference between these two is extremely important to your long-term success.
Many people use the words “character” and “personality” interchangeably, however their meanings are not quite the same.
Your character is essentially who you are at your very core, the mental and moral qualities that are distinctive to you as an individual. On the other hand, your personality is the combination of qualities and traits that you display around other people, not necessarily who you truly are.
So when it comes to personal development, some teachings focus on character as the foundation of success, meaning that there are essential principles of nature that people must integrate into their basic character in order to achieve lasting success. Examples of these are integrity, humility, fidelity, justice, patience, and the Golden Rule.
In contrast, I find that today the majority of the focus is on solely developing personality. In other words, success is being portrayed as more of a function of public image, skills, behaviors, and techniques that help to influence people.
We’ve all seen these types of articles, even on this website, with titles like “10 Tips To Establish Rapport”, “5 Ways To Get Motivated In The Morning”, or “Steps To Be More Productive”
Although these things are helpful, I want to clarify that focusing on personality should be only SECONDARY, because no matter how many tips and techniques you learn, true long-lasting success can only come from a solid character based on the right motives, values, and habits.
Someone’s seemingly pleasant personality may hide a true unpleasant character and bring some degree of success.
However, as history has repeatedly shown, this type of “success” never lasts, and usually ends up hurting others in the long run.
Learning communication skills, field of influence strategies and positive thinking are important to your success, but they are only secondary to developing a strong character.
Ultimately, who you ARE speaks louder than what you SAY or DO.