3 Tips to Master Your Self-Control
Do you ever struggle to keep your behavior in place and act based on your feelings, without thinking first? Have you ever reacted in an undesirable way and then beaten yourself down for taking the wrong approach?
If your answer is yes, then you and I have something in common.
In the past, my approach often sucked, and I didn’t know what self-control even means. It got to the point where I hated myself every time I got angry and acted out of proportion.
I started to read and listen to tons of motivational and inspirational audios because I knew I must change. Since I have experienced how great it is to be in charge of your own behavior, here are 3 easy tips you can apply for yourself and master your self-control.
1. Be Rational
Everything starts first on a level of thoughts, and thoughts become feelings. What you need to do to is to choose your thoughts wisely and think before you respond to a given situation.
One of the best ways I consistently apply this in any difficult situation is by asking myself the right questions.
Anytime you feel that anger or frustration is getting into your head, stop for a second and ask yourself: “Is it worth of an argument? Does this problem really matter? What benefit do I get by getting upset and feeling miserable?”
You may use different questions for yourself to change your mental state. Thoughts are a powerful weapon, and if you practice it, instantly, it will become a habit.
2. Take advantage of self-help books
Reading books are one of the best ways you can feed your mind with useful information and improve your life. As I mentioned at the beginning, books and tapes were crucial for my personal improvement.
Great books will make you think; they will make you understand better who you are and what you want to become. They will give you different perspective on the future and open your mind to endless possibilities.
I want to recommend you one of the most convenient apps I have found. It called Scribd. There is a little subscription fee, and you can choose from hundreds of books and audios.
I have found this app very useful because there are more than enough books for personal development, motivational and inspiration material that will help you to take charge of your life.
3. Understand that you are who you created to be
Who you are now is a result of decisions you have made so far. As corny as it sounds, you can be anyone you choose to be. Nothing and no one can define you. Understand that you are the person in charge here. It's not your boss, your spouse or your children.
If you react in a negative way, it is you who need to change, not people around. I know it may seem difficult or impossible right now, but the best thing you can do is to take the first step.
What are some things you find helps you have more self-control? Feel free to share them in the comments below!
About the author: Silvia Turonova
Silvia enjoys helping people to uncover their true potential and go beyond. She is trying to pursue this through her website www.couragewithinyou.com, which main focus is on self-development, success, self-esteem and unlimited power we have within. She believes that everyone can accomplish anything in their lives if they are committed enough to make a change.